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I am an Army veteran and am currently a Sergeant at the XXX Alabama Police Department.I am requesting 10 copies of Coping Strategies to distribute to officers at my department. Any consideration in this matter would be greatly appreciated.
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Army Psychologist:
I am veteran psychologist (Army) who provides assistance to the vets in Los Angeles Sheriff Department.
Father:
It empowered one father to reach out to his son. Here’s what he said in his message; forwarding the Patriot Outreach website (emphasis not added):
“Hey Buddy, Look what I found on the internet! More than coincidence? God DOES work in mysterious ways.
I love you, my brave son! Dad”
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- PFC J. Oehring, U.S. Army Infantry (Deployed to Iraq)
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- Dr. (COL) John Bradley, M.D., Chief of Psychiatry, Walter Reed Army Medical Center
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“In my own experience as a commander, I have seen Soldiers make rapid and sustained improvement through use of these [Coping Strategies] CDs. I was relieved to have these CDs available as a tool our Chaplains could hand out to Soldiers and their spouses. Soldiers, who otherwise refused to seek help, benefited by using the CD in the privacy of their home.”
- MG(R) George R. Harris, recently retired West Point General assigned to the Office of the Secretary of the Army
Veterans Administration Clinic:
"I received my [Coping Strategies] CD and love it. I would very much like to request 30 more for use at the VA Clinic and to provide to soldiers and families.
This is a wonderful resource!
Thank you,"
T.P.,
Addiction Therapist (VA Clinic)
Army Chaplain:
The Be Still and Know Exercise works for me. It calms my soul, enhances my thinking, and improves my emotional regulation. I am thankful to be a more resilient chaplain. Read the chaplain's letter (PDF)
----Chaplain (LTC), U.S. Army (Southern Baptist)
Father Loses Son in Iraq, Joins Marines:
"On the third try, all hell broke loose and it was an epiphany... It energizes me, it enlightens me and it gives me strength... I am ready and proud."
- Mike, U.S. Marine Corps, Deployed to Iraq
Sergeant USMC:
"Thank you, It saved my Life! The peace and joy I now enjoy makes life worthwhile! "
- SGT J. Shiposki, U.S. Marine Corps, (Homebound Quadriplegic)
Air Force Chaplain:
“The distribution of these [Coping Strategies] CD's has been a great success.
My thanks to the Lord and staff. I have been busy at the Mass Military Reservation on-base. Units from all over New England come here.
May I request 50 more CD's. One veteran has commented 'thanks for looking out for us!"
Respectfully, B. C., U.S. Air Force
Doctor:
“Hello I am a Professional Counselor in private practice and a volunteer in the 'Give An Hour' program. I anticipate needing no less than 6 copies of this product to use in conjunction with current and future active therapy cases. If you can supply this request i will be grateful.
Thank You,” Major W. K.
Wife:
“May I have 10 copies. I am a family member of an active duty soldier. I am also a clinical psychologist working with soldiers who have combat stress and PTSD. I think the cd would be a good resource for my patients."
Thank you,
D. L, PsyD RN FNP (Clinical Psychologist)
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- L. Brown U.S. Navy, Gulf of Tonkin, Vietnam
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"I've been listening to your Cd for about five days now and it is completely changing me... I have been struggling for so long... I feel so liberated... I'm not resentful for my husband for returning to Iraq."
- Janine, Wife of Deployed Warrior
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- PFC J.M., U.S. Army, Anbar Province, Iraq 2004-2005
Social Service Worker / USCG:
"I have developed PTSD primarily through my life of being a child protective service worker for 11+ years. I became addicted to adrenalin. My tour in the USCG was not combat, but it was TERRIFIYING as I operated a search and rescue craft and had never owned a canoe before.
I went to the V.A. for counseling in 2000 and was referred out to a psychologist who knew nothing about PTSD. I still "doctor" with the V.A. and have a new lease on life due to the 'Be Still and Know' principles. I remain 'on the battlefield' as a social service worker and I stay in the fight because I believe I have a gift to do so. MANY others say I do as well."
- Michael, U.S. Coast Guard / Social Service Worker
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Souls Touching Souls!
(Reprint New Insights, Aug 2008)
PDF Version
Dear Colonel Monaco,
First, I want to thank you for calling me yesterday.
I followed your advice and went back to the site and did the exercise. I feel so much better. I’ve let go of a lot of the other frustrations I have been carrying with me for a long time. This morning I woke up and started to write; what happened yesterday actually inspired
a scene I added to the script. I don’t mind if you forward this, I wrote this in mind to be shared.
I’ll admit it, when I was given the Coping Strategies
CD and visited the website, I didn’t think it applied
to me. I had become so used to existing on emotional stress and physical pain that I dismissed the notion that I needed to learn how to cope. I believed that I was coping with my problems well enough. After really taking a hard look at myself and actually [giving] the exercise a chance, I’ve come to realize that I’ve been holding onto all of the anger, disappointment, and sorrow from events in my past.
For the past seven years, in my mind’s eye I’ve viewed myself in three different ways: who I was, who I wanted to be, and who I am. I have been guilty of assigning my anger and disappointment in myself to everyone around me. I couldn’t take their love, support, and encouragement at face value. In my mind, I told myself that deep down they thought I was a failure and a burden. I overcompensated to the point that I really was just hurting myself instead of making things better.
After five surgeries to remove the joint, two bones, and damaged tissue in my right foot, I was diagnosed with causalgia; a disorder that developed as a result of the nerve damage from what happened to me in the Army. The best description I’ve read on the pain that comes with causalgia is “imagine someone replaced your blood with gasoline, set it on fire, and then kept the fire burning 24/7.” In the past few months the symptoms of [the] disorder has spread to my right hand, and that frustrates me far more than my leg.
All of this brings me back to the Coping Strategies CD. At the time I finally listened; I felt so frustrated and overwhelmed. The mental strain I was putting on myself because of my physical pain was causing me to lash out at the people around me. I was angry
about what happened in my past, I was frustrated by my physical limitations, so when I became upset over something minor I started cycling those negative thoughts that only served to make me feel worse.
It took someone’s kind reminder of the resource I’ve had all along to snap me out of it. I did the exercise.
Instead of focusing on my past, instead of focusing
on negative thoughts, I focused on being aware. It worked, and my bad mood lifted. I was aware of the physical pain, but it wasn’t at the forefront of my thoughts; this pain is not and should not be an excuse to make my life more difficult than it truly is.
Thank you and God Bless,
My Testimonial – An Open Cry
PDF Version
Colonel Tony Monaco,
United States Army
(December 2006)
Noble Warriors!! I must confess I can no longer remain silent, stand by and watch. We have banded together in the face of adversity before and once more we will.
There is a new battlefield!! Too many of us are bringing the enemy home; distressing our loved ones.
At an Army clinic, I ran into one of my Soldiers who was having stomach problems and no one could figure out why. Quietly, he confessed of having a recurring image of a dead Soldier he had zipped into a body bag. Later that week, I read a U.S. News & World Report article dealing with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) which featured a friend of mine, COL Kathy Platoni, a combat-stress team psychologist.
I keyed on U.S. News & World Report's account that the core problem is “Reimagining the trauma again...” Forces exist to demoralize us and lead us to an unwitting path of self-destructive behavior. These recurring images lurk within us to take us down.
Are you Stressed? Depressed? Isolated, Angry and full of Resentment? Who will take care of us if we don’t? There is no need to struggle alone, and in darkness.
Even the renowned psychologist and founder of analytical psychology, Carl Jung, acknowledged, “What you resist persists.”
Seeking professional help is always advisable. What I discovered is a very private, simple, non-intrusive Exercise called, “Be Still and Know.” It has helped me immensely in overcoming extreme adversities. It is confidential, effective and powerful. And I have freely shared the Exercise with my family and colleagues alike.
How does it work?
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Imagine that you have gone to the movie theater and we are sitting together. As the movie begins, you get caught up into the action and before you know it you're living the movie. Lost in the imagery of the movie, you feel the action and react to the excitement of a kiss, a chase, or a fall.
If I hit your arm and you react to me, it breaks the imagery of the movie and you
remember that you're in the theater. Not only is the imagery of the movie broken, so
is the emotional bond that held you. The power of the imagery fades away into
nothing.
The Exercise works on the same principle. Simply put, it breaks the endless loop of thought sustained by emotional energy. It sets you free from “Reimagining the trauma again…”
Your thoughts rage into a battle, keeping you confused, lost and emotionally charged, and worse yet, causing you to seek escapes (to feel better, e.g., drugs, alcohol, sex, outbursts).
Being aware is effortless. There is nothing to study, nothing to learn. Just be still, aware, and the reoccurring images with their assorted pains wither away.
All you have to do is sit in a straight-backed chair and listen to the Exercise. The narrator, walks you through it.
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(As you sit, you’ll become aware of your hand and it’ll tingle just a bit until a thought pulls you away and the tingling will stop. It’s a mini-battlefield between being in the Movie [caught up] or the Audience [aware].)
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Day-by-day this simple Exercise breaks the shackles of your mind, and you're no longer reliving the past. As you see it, and watch it, the thought will simply fade away.
The Exercise delivers results. It is not an escape, just to make you feel better. It is designed to set you free; empowered. |
Dr. George Hayter, M.D., Psychiatrist and Diplomate of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology, says the Exercise "…is the only program of self-therapy which achieves the desired end-state of therapy; to lessen the dependence on the therapist – the goal is self-awareness.” Also, he says, “It’s the only approach that I have ever seen in the whole field of psychology which allows you to become independent, competent and effective.”
The Warriors difficulty of overcoming the stigma of weakness, or asking for help, is apparent. Everyone acknowledges PTSD and knows of someone else with the problem, or at least having troubles. There is a strong cultural resistance to admitting or seeking help. Even so, several Soldiers and Army civilians have asked me for the “Be Still and Know” Exercise, including a General Officer and a Chief of Staff. Check it out; it's very private. Just Download "The Exercise."
“Patriot Outreach” provides grants (at no cost) to all military Warriors, government civilians, battlefield contractors, first responders, veterans, retirees and their families.
Let’s not bring home the enemy. Working Together...Making A Difference. HUA!! Let us cherish the sweet joy of life. God Speed!!
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Colonel Monaco's Epilogue
(November 2007)
As their loved ones enter harms way, several family members have asked me what they can do. Can the Exercise “Be Still and Know” help? ...Absolutely!!
The Exercise is for everyday life. Your work! Your family! Your kids! Your health! Even road rage!
Keeping with our movie theater analogy above (How does it work?), using The Exercise before, as well as during a deployment (or stressful operation) is comparable to being told the ending of the movie. It spoils it! How many times has this happened to you?
Knowing the ending, being aware, negates a lot of the suspense, emotional bonds and intrigue, and therefore the cause of many common stress reactions. Overcoming stress, anger, and fear not only on the battlefield, but also on the Homefront will bring us joy, and a more productive and happier life.
Download The Exercise! Try it! What do you have to lose? Moreover, many have found comfort in Psalms 91. Together, with God's Blessing, fighting for each other will make a difference.
Amber
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